Each person's response to grief is unique. It does not come in nice, neat stages you complete in a set amount of time. You may experience some of these common feelings in the weeks, months and years ahead. Please remember that each day will differ, and it is important that you give yourself permission to feel what you feel. Support groups are an excellent way to talk about your grief with those who truly understand what you are going through.
Common Feelings
Tears 
- They are a river that takes us somewhere.
- They are a body's release valve, you need not be ashamed or fearful of crying.
- Mood changes are not uncommon.
Disbelief
- Facing the reality of death is very hard. It's not unusual to "forget" your loved one is not there.
Sorrow
- You can't lose anyone or anything of value without being sad.
- Depression is a normal part of grief. Consider talking with a grief counselor, physician or minister.
- You may feel like running away or finding ways to stay busy enough to avoid the pain.
Anger
- You may feel anger at yourself, other people, physicians, nurses - even your loved one.
- Allow yourself to express anger in constructive ways, such as exercise, beating pillows, etc.
Fear
- A feeling of "What will happen next?"
Physical Symptoms
Grief can also express itself in physical symptoms. Emotions associated with grief will be the most stressful feelings you will ever have. Just as your heart and soul need nurturing, so does your body. If health problems persist, please contact your doctor for evaluation and advice.
Common Physical Responses 
- The "Crazies" - feeling like you are "going crazy"
- Unable to concentrate, confused, forgetful
- Feel overwhelmed
- Lose track of time
- Feel spacey or numb
- Tightness in your throat
- Changes in appetite
- Restlessness
- Changes in sleeping habits
- Headaches
- "Just-not-right" feeling
Grief takes time. Treat yourself gently, and demand that others let you grieve at your own pace. Exercise and eat healthy foods; rest when your body needs it. Set realist goals, and do not allow others to put their needs or expectations on you. Do what you need to do. You don't need to go through this alone. There are many support groups and counselors that you may find valuable while working through your grief.
